Practice sessions
Focusing is a learned practice. Please find time to practice at least once between meetings. Plan on allowing each person time to Focus for approx 20 minutes. The exchange should then be able to fit into an hour time slot.
Partner practice crib sheets will be sent by email
The overall theme for Level 3:
a more nuanced understanding of the process
Reading and meeting themes
Meeting 1, May 9.
Theme: Increasing awareness of self- guiding
The Focusing Student & Companion’s Manual, Part One
Please review pages 6-12, 28 and 50-54.
Here is a link to a Focusing demonstration
The demo is 15 minutes long. It is interesting to note that the Focuser didn't mention aloud the issue she was focusing on before the session nor did she refer to specifics about the issue even though she was clearly in an inner relationship with something.
During your practice session after the first meeting, the companion will offer "reflections" to the Focuser. The Focuser will give her own self-instructions, also know as "reminders". As you listen to the demo, write down one or two self-guiding instrctions that the Focuser gave herself.
Meeting 2, May 21
Theme: Giving Reminders, Cushions
The Focusing Student & Companion’s Manual, Part Two
Section Nine: A Reminder or Two, Pages 133-142
Transcript, Short Focusing Session
Below in a link to a demonstration where the companion offers reflections, waiting for the Focuser to pause before reflecting. Notice that if the Focuser says a lot without pausing, then only the last thing is reflected back. The companion doesn't reflect the Focusers self guiding instructions. For the most part, during this session, the Focuser leads herself with self instructions. Aligned with the partner practice exercise after meeting 2, the Focuser asks for a specific reminder a couple of times. The companion then offers a reminder, prefaced with a "cushion", based on that specific request. One time the Focuser does not specify the reminder she wants. Rather than interupt the session for the sake of a more "perfect" demonstration, the companion simply chose a reminder to say to the Focuser based on what she might have said to herself.
Demonstration, Focuser asks for specific reminders
the demonstration is about 16 minutes.
Here is a link to a demo Ann made of solo focusing. As you want it, notice some of the self-guiding that Ann is doing.
Meeting 3, May 30
Theme: Making Contact
The Focusing Student & Companion’s Manual, Part Two
Section Seven: Going Deeper, Pages 82-98
Section Nine: The Stages of a Focusing Session, Pages 149-150
Making Contact, Section B of the Supplemental Manual
Below is a link to a demonstration of a Focusing session where the focuser offers herself some reminders and also requests reminders several times during the session. She does not request specific reminders during the session. This demonstration is aligned with the partner practice after meeting 3. After the session, the focuser and companion talk about the process. Several valuable teaching points about Focusing come out during this after sesson exchange. The video is close to 24 minutes long.
Meeting 4, June 14
Theme: Settling in and Deepening Contact
The Focusing Student & Companion’s Manual, Part Two
Section Seven: Going Deeper, Pages 99-109
Settling In, Section C of the Supplemental Manual
Deepening Contact, Section D of the Supplemental Manual
the "Bottle" handout - this "crib sheet will be emailed
Here is a link to a demonstration where the Focuser gives some of her own self-guiding suggestions and she sometimes asks her companionfor a reminder. Aligned with the practice session after meeting 4, the companion gives reflections and occasionally, without being asked, adds a reminder after the reflection. After the session both focuser and companion share about the process (not content). 19 minutes.
Meeting 5, July 25
Theme: Two or More Parts, Coming Out & Positives
The Focusing Student & Companion’s Manual, Part Two
Section Seven: Going Deeper, Pages 110-113
Section Nine: A Reminder of Two, Pages 151-153
Coming Out, Section E of the Supplemental Manual
Meeting platform - Zoom
To connect with video option, join via computer through this URL:
https://zoom.us/j/161191163
then follow the prompts.
If you can not be at a computer then you may dial in
Dial: +1 646 558 8656 (US Toll) or +1 408 638 0968 (US Toll)
Meeting ID: 161 191 163
Times of meetings
May 9 - 11am pacific, 1pm central
May 21 - 10am pacific, 12pm central
May 30 - 12pm pacific, 2pm central
June 14 - 10:30am pacific, 12:30pm central
July 25 - 12pm pacific, 2pm central
